As we navigate the holidays and "tis the season," we cannot forget and lose ourselves in the mix. In our hearts, we know the holidays mean family (which can be very stressful), showing up to many celebratory events when our energy is low, and exuding an “attitude of gratitude” on the inside while trying to maintain a semblance of peace within. The expectation of the holiday is unspoken but while there is a lot to celebrate, there are many of us going through heavy times, navigating the loss of loved ones both that have passed on or grieving folks that have left our lives who are very much still alive. The bottom line is it is tough to navigate life on life's terms, especially during the holidays.
Here are some insights that have helped me during these bittersweet moments, and I hope you find them beneficial as well:
1. Embrace the Pause: In our fast-paced world, we often feel compelled to respond immediately to messages or demands on our time. However, taking a moment to pause can be transformative. This invaluable lesson, which I learned in community support settings, allows us to reflect and respond thoughtfully.
2. Movement Is Medicine: Physical activity can uplift our spirits. Even a brief walk outside to experience the refreshing cold air can work wonders for our mental well-being.
3. Take Screen Breaks: On average, we unlock our phones 150 times a day and engage with our screens thousands of times (tapping 2600-5400 times a day on average). Consider the time spent on social media—over five years of our lives. These are five years that we do not and cannot get back. Prioritize intentional breaks from screens and consider doing a digital 'hard reset' to refresh your mind.
4. Drive Mindfully: Distracted driving is responsible for twenty-six percent of car accidents. No message is worth risking your life or the lives of others. Use your time behind the wheel to unwind and be present.
5. Stay Present: It’s easy to romanticize the past, but every choice and experience has shaped who we are today. Embrace each day as a precious gift with 86,400 seconds at your disposal. Use your time wisely as it is a finite resource. Time is also our greatest currency.
6. Capture Moments with Generosity: While it’s important to experience life in the moment, photographs serve as cherished memories that can last a lifetime. In May, I abruptly lost my dad, and I treasure the thousands of pictures I have of him along with saved voicemail messages. These memories keep him alive in my heart, reminding me to be generous with my picture-taking. So, capture those moments—take photos of loved ones, special gatherings, and everyday joys. One day, these snapshots may be all we have to hold onto.
7. Honor Your Furry Friends: If you’re a pet person, take a moment to honor your beloved companion during this holiday season. Remember, one day to us is equivalent to seven days for them. Our pets have so much to teach us about mindfulness, presence, and gratitude. They remind us to savor each moment, whether it’s a playful romp in the snow or a quiet cuddle by the fire. Let their joyful spirits inspire you to be fully present and grateful for the simple pleasures in life.
8. Spread Kindness: Remember, everything we have is on loan during our time here. Be generous: donate blood if you can, volunteer for causes close to your heart, and send handwritten notes. Research shows that expressing gratitude benefits both the giver and the receiver.
9. Practice Mindfulness: Dedicate five minutes daily to silent reflection, focusing on your breath. This practice anchors you in the present moment and fosters mindfulness.
10. Honor Your Limits: In the spirit of self-care, remember that “no” is a complete sentence. Recognize your humanity and protect your peace, using each day’s 86,400 seconds wisely.
11. Give Yourself Grace: The expectations we place on ourselves can be overwhelming. Allow yourself the grace to navigate your own journey without undue pressure.
Above all, remember that Lawyers Concerned for Lawyers of Pennsylvania is here for you (and your family members and staff) at 1-888-999-1941 and lclpa.org, 24/7/365—not just from 9:00am-5:00pm. Stress and anxiety are debilitating, but you are not alone. We are here for you. At the end of the day, remember: we are all simply walking each other home.